I read this on another Tiny Pepper’s NanoPoblano 2018 blog the other day.
It struck me with its profundity. It seemed quite biblical.
- How skinny is skinny enough?!?
- I could never get THAT small.
- That’s just too thin.
The fact of the matter is that it doesn’t matter what their size is and it’s not mandated that I get that small and have my body look like theirs. Their journey is different than mine. Their whys are probably different than mine. They are different from me. We are all unique and special in our own way. So are our journeys.
We do have something in common, though, other than our need/desire to lose weight.
Learning how to care for ourselves well is key to making it through to the end of this stage of our life’s journey AND not having to go through this stage again.
Ultimately, many self-care habits and routines are going to vary as much as those of us on this journey do. However, the basics are all the same:
- Passionate purpose
There are some internal prerequisites to achieve those basics. The first of which is deciding that you have value, that your life matters, and your needs are as important as anyone else’s needs.
That belief in one’s own value leads to the second prerequisite: boundaries. What are those?
- The ability to say, “No,” to unreasonable demands and requests, is a key boundary.
- The ability to decide how to deal with and whether to take the criticisms, snide & snarky remarks, manipulation, and verbal abusiveness, all of which are so prevalent in our lives.
- The ability to stand up for one’s self and assert the right to exist, breathe, and occupy the space you’re in, unapologetically.
These are the foundation of this journey of healing, recovery, and growth we’re all on. Once those things are in place, as much is possible, then, self-care is possible. Once caring for and about oneself is primary, then, belief in our own abilities comes next and we become unstoppable…even if we can’t see the end from the beginning, at first.
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