Father’s Day 2013: Healing the father wound

These were written about and are dedicated to three fathers in my life: my birth dad whom I found after a 39 1/2 year separation in 2010; my uncle who is only 15 years older than me and became my guardian when I was a troubled and deeply wounded 12 year old; and the father of my youngest child and who struggled in an uphill battle in a landslide life to be a father to my oldest children.

It’s so easy to criticize, judge, and condemn fathers (and mothers) who were unable to parent us in healthy and constructive ways or to be on the outside, looking in and deem a parent unfit.

The fact is that perfect love gets distorted, twisted, and filtered – often despite our deepest desires and truest intentions. I now understand, accept, forgive, and truly love each one – knowing each has done and is doing his best, even when it felt/feels worst.

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4 comments

    1. Phil,
      Thank you so much for this. I’m sorry I didn’t respond sooner, I’m without regular access to the internet or computer and all of my blogging/computing is primarily being done using my little iPhone. So, I didn’t see this comment until today, as it had gotten routed to my spam folder.

      Thanks for both the reblog and the follow.

      Blessings,
      Kina

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