Choosing the light

There is a lot of negative perception about Facebook. That’s alright, since Facebook has it’s fair share of negative people with negative outlooks sharing negative things for negative purposes. It’s easy to get caught up in the trauma and drama of all the negative programming.

However, it’s also an awful lot like fine tuning the dial on the old analog radios in order to hone in on the clearest signal on the FM dial. Too far to either to the left or right and the signals cross, the messages overlap and there’s a lot of static.

The Law of Attraction seems to be working for me these days, because more and more positive people are connecting with me and my news stream is becoming filled more with smoother flowing, calm, clear, and thirst quenching messages.

Perhaps I’m just getting better tuned in.

Yesterday, my meandering led me to, The road to ME, where I found this image and quote:


ā€œIt is never too late to turn on the light. Your ability to break an unhealthy habit or turn off an old tape doesn’t depend on how long it has been running; a shift in perspective doesn’t depend on how long you’ve held on to the old view.

When you flip the switch in that attic, it doesn’t matter whether its been dark for ten minutes, ten years or ten decades.

The light still illuminates the room and banishes the murkiness, letting you see the things you couldn’t see before.

Its never too late to take a moment to look.ā€

~ Sharon Salzberg

I was immediately inspired in a number of ways. The synapses began firing and the words and concepts began forming. Here’s the end result:


It’s never too late, until it is. As long as you have the breath of life, you have a life worth living. We are meant to thrive, not merely survive, although, surviving is where many of us start.

At some point, many points, if the truth be told, you have to decide between surviving or thriving. Surviving is easy, regardless of how it may seem. Thriving is much more challenging of the two, believe it or not.

Thriving means letting go, losing control, and trusting when there may not be a basis for trust. It means deciding ahead of time to forgive the unforgivable and letting down your guard enough to allow others inside your defenses.

If you have adapted to living under the cover of darkness, you may yearn for the light, but flinch away from it’s piercing brightness. If the attic of your mind has been accumulating and storing haphazardly arranged bits and pieces from your life, the switch to turn on the light may be hidden or even not the kind of thing you may assume it to be. It could even be located where you don’t remember it or expect it to be because it’s been so long since you’ve actually looked, or it may be your first foray into this dark and cluttered place, filled with darkness, dust, shadows, and cobwebs.

You might need help to find the switch. That’s okay. You might need to borrow a flashlight or have someone hold it while you rummage around in the darkness. Maybe you need help with the heavy lifting or the arduous task of sorting and identifying all the various items. That’s perfectly fine and acceptable.

However, it’s your attic, your stuff, and your switch. You decide what to keep and what to let go of. You determine what gets done with the items you’re keeping. Repurpose it or put it back in storage? Use it and let it benefit your life or move it someplace else where it becomes a hindrance? It’s your choice.

Once you get to the switch, you decide when to flip it. If someone else flipped it on without warning, without you being ready and without your permission, your initial reaction may be pain, shock, fear and anger. Your first inclination may be to turn the light back off, because darkness has become soothing and familiar, it makes you feel protected and safe.

It’s your life. It’s your decision. .
Isolation or Reach out and accept help?
Reside in darkness or Move into the light
Survive or Thrive?

You choose.

I want to thank Steven Shomler and Marc Shelske for their leadership and examples of how to live and work for your dreams with authenticity, dedication, integrity, and transparently.



  1. Kina, I am delighted your dreams have been nurtured and stoked! It is a blessing to us to have you be part of Dream Stoker Nation. Thank you so much for all the ways that you make a positive contribution to our community! Steven


  2. This was a great post! I left the url in the comment section of another blog I follow. We CAN change! Need to see the positive in everyone, including ourselves. Thanks!


  3. Thanks so much for the kind affirmation. You are doing the things you can do to move forward into action, into ownership, into responsibility, into defining your life. I’m so impressed. I know it’s hard, and every day it requires a massive commitment and step of faith. But you can do it.


    1. Thanks Marc. It means so much to receive those words from someone who has known me as long as you have, even if it’s only been a mere acquaintanceship until recently. There are are very few of you, lol. Your teaching and seeing your growth and change over time and how unflinchingly you share your journey has been instrumental for me.


  4. I instinctively stay away from the darker side of life (and negative people are part of that) because I feel so much better when I’m focusing on the positive. Interesting post!


  5. Thank you for this beautiful post. You bring up several important points and maybe the most important according to me – allow your self to be helped! I believe there are many (not just me šŸ˜‰ ) who have or are struggling with this. We believe we have to able to fix everything ourselves, when really its the opposite. We all need help now and again. So thank you for bringing this up!


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